A List of Things Men Must Know
I generally dislike obligatory lists of lists – but there is a need here to have a core description of gentlemanly things all men must know. This really isn’t a list, just thoughts disguised as a list. Listen, you don’t have to believe me, go look at anybody that is successful or tall or who is able to communicate with women; they have a rudimentary grasp on these things. No list is complete, this one is not either so please sit back, gloss this over, and help me add to it.
Every man needs to know how to iron a shirt and tie a tie. This is listed first because it is a mandatory item. The dry cleaner is always an option when you need a pressed look. It will cost a couple bucks and planning is required. What if you end up in a hotel with a wrinkled shirt or at home preparing for a last minute meeting? Get out the iron and fix that shirt. The tie is just as important. If you have a zipper tie or a clip on tie that is just fine, if you are ten. It is not hard to learn and is a staple of your wardrobe (once I figure out how, I will add video evidence). The other simple thing that is a must are well polished shoes. Again I will beg off the details on how to polish them, but you can be sure I will cover that topic soon.
Dude needs to cook. This blog littered with recipes that are easy and can make you look suave. Guys that cook are sexy, that is the word on the street. Breakfast should be more than eggs and bacon. An omelet is so easy and it has great curb appeal. Manage the grill, cook a steak, make any food that does not come in a can or a box. The bottom line is a cooking class may be in your best interest. I am a Midwest guy, raised on casserole (or as we simple folk call it, hot dish). Hot Dish will do in a pinch, much like spaghetti or chili, any dolt can make it. Get to a couple go-to meals and you will be ahead of the game.
This category includes some drinks. We have already discussed the whiskey play. You also need to know how to make a martini. The “drink it” section will be your friend , I promise. In the mean time a classic shaken martini with olives is the rule to live by. Splurge on the vodka for this one (2 oz. Ketel One mixed with 1/2 oz. dry vermouth shaken over ice poured into chilled glass with two olives). There is a direct correlation between the quality of the Vodka and the suffering of the people who make it. Swarthy Polish people make Belvedere, they have suffered and the Vodka is righteous. For the same reason I generally avoid Grey Goose, the French, come on. You can use any crap in a Bloody Mary or a Screwdriver because the mix is so strong, but the Martini gives you no where to hide. That reminds me, Bloody Mary recipes are coming!
Train The Brain
It may seem like a small thing but you need to get your mind around communication. Every man needs to be able to have a conversation with a child. It is a great exercise in joy and patience to talk to children on their level. Nothing moves the fairer sex more than seeing a man and a young one in a deep conversation. Don’t do it to just look good, do it because it is tonic for your soul. On that same bent, have a book handy to read. You can use the Kindle, an app on your phone, or even read an old-fashioned paper book. This can help you build that organ you need to use more, the brain. Not just the brain stem that demands food, sleep, sex and wants you to fight. It builds the advanced frontal lobes. It helps you communicate with that delicate child.
Get Past Your Past
If you ever want to be a whole person you will have to eventually realize that you can neither ignore your past nor can you change it. It is stuff you did. Sure you can spin it and justify your behavior but, eventually you have to face the fact, it is the path you took. Every man needs to respect that past and grow from it. Even if that past is littered with figurative, or literal, skeletons you must reflect and grow. I realize this is along way from getting a good knot in a tie but, that tie looks better on a self-aware neck. I have said it before and I will say it again – every man needs to talk to someone smarter than them about emotions. Many of us did not even know we had emotions let alone recognize experiencing them as manly.
And Of Course
•travel •get a firm handshake •listen to classical music (not The Rolling Stones – Mozart) •Have ten different music mixes on your Spotify •volunteer for something •go to the gym (you will thank me) •look people in the eye •be a gentleman (especially with women) •put your phone away when you are engaged with someone •build a fire •do something outdoors •laugh •learn to tell a joke •no really laugh (don’t take yourself so seriously) •and find a passion (scratch and claw and dig to find something that moves you) Perhaps the list should just be that last bullet point. Everything else will become a detail if you find your passion. That is all for now Let’s Go!